Ditch the drama. Keep the magic. Plan your day, your way. 10 things every couple should know before they elope.
Eloping isn’t a second-best option. It’s a sacred, intentional, and empowering choice — one that lets you reclaim what your wedding should actually feel like: honest, joyful, and deeply connected. I’ve comprised a list of 10 things you should know before you elope.
Whether you’re dreaming of wind-swept vows on an Icelandic cliff or exchanging rings in a secret Vermont forest, here are 10 things to know before you elope. Written by someone who’s been there (hi, I eloped too) and now helps couples like you live out that dream with full hearts and zero regrets.
1. Elopements Can Be Big on Emotion and Adventure
Let’s start by flipping the script: Elopements aren’t just quick courthouse signings. They can be multi-day experiences filled with hiking, hot springs, beach picnics, and staying up to watch the northern lights. Your day deserves to unfold at a pace that feels luxurious — not rushed.
If you’re looking for something more than a “just the vows” kind of day, check out my Adventure Elopement Packages designed to tell your full story from sunrise to stargazing.
2. You Don’t Need to Feel Guilty for Protecting Your Peace
Family expectations? Old school traditions? Toxic dynamics? You’re not selfish for choosing yourselves. I’ve worked with so many couples who had to draw hard boundaries in order to elope — and every single one said it was worth it. I wish
You can still include loved ones in your day in other ways — private readings of letters, Zoom streams, post-elopement parties. But please remember: your wedding day should not be a source of anxiety.
3. Understand the Legal Side Before You Travel
Whether you’re eloping in Vermont, California, or Iceland — the legal process varies and some destinations require more prep than others. Here’s a quick guide:
- For Iceland:
You’ll need to submit documentation at least 3 weeks in advance. That includes a marriage notification form, birth certificates, and copies of passports. Read the full legal guide here. - For Vermont:
You’ll apply for a marriage license at any town clerk’s office. There’s no waiting period, and you can be legally married the same day. Learn more via Vermont.gov.
Need help navigating the paperwork? I’ve got you covered in this post: How to Legally Elope in Iceland
4. Build a Travel Plan That Matches the Vibe
Whether you’re flying across the world or road-tripping through New England, your travel logistics can make or break your elopement flow.
A few things I always recommend:
- Book flights early if heading overseas — Icelandair has direct flights from Boston, NYC, and Chicago starting at around $450.
- Rent a 4×4 vehicle for eloping in Iceland — especially in summer when you’ll want to hit those Highlands. I love Blue Car Rental.
- Pack your attire in your carry-on — trust me, your dress deserves a window seat.
For my full Iceland packing list with gear recs from REI, North Face & Patagonia, check out:
👉 What to Pack for Your Iceland Elopement
5. Your Budget Can Stretch Further Than You Think
Most of my couples spend less on an elopement than a traditional wedding, while getting way more in return — experiences, photos, and intentional memories.
Here’s how it can break down:
| Category | Avg. Elopement Cost |
|---|---|
| Photographer/Videographer | $5,000–$10,000 |
| Travel & Lodging | $2,000–$4,000 |
| Attire & Details | $500–$1,500 |
| Permits/Legal Docs | $100–$300 |
| Extras (Florals, Food, Adventure Add-ons) | $500–$2,000 |
Looking for packages that include it all?
👉 Check Out My Pricing Page
6. It’s Okay If the Weather Isn’t “Perfect”
Iceland wind. Vermont fog. Seaside mist. These elements? They add drama, texture, and magic. My best advice: embrace whatever shows up. Your story will still be beautiful — actually, probably more so.
Pack smart, bring layers, and trust your photographer (that’s me!) to guide you through lighting, timelines, and location shifts if needed.
7. You Still Deserve to Look & Feel Amazing
Just because you’re eloping doesn’t mean you should skip the glam. Hire a hair & makeup artist who can meet you at your cabin or Airbnb. Choose a dress or suit that moves with you and makes you feel like the legend you are.
Some of my go-to vendors:
- Vermont Hair & Makeup: Jennifer Perellie
- Iceland Dress Steaming: Ask for in-room services through ION Adventure Hotel
8. Don’t Skimp on Photo & Video Coverage
This is your only wedding day — whether there are 2 people present or 20. Investing in photo and video means you can relive it for the rest of your life and share it with everyone who wasn’t there.
Looking for a photo + video team?
👉 Meet Ryan, my go-to filmmaker: Elopement Videography Add-On
9. Think About What Feels Good — Then Build Around That
Do you love slow mornings with coffee and journaling? Build that into your day. Want to start with a hike and end with champagne in a hot tub? Hell yes. This day should be filled with sensory moments, not just an itinerary.
Your elopement isn’t about checking off a list — it’s about feeling seen and alive.
10. You Are Not Alone in This
If you’re here thinking, “This feels exciting but also a little overwhelming” — I got you. I walk all of my couples through location scouting, permits, outfit tips, travel logistics, timelines, emotional prep, and more.
I’m your photographer, yes. But I’m also your creative partner, logistics queen, and emotional anchor. Let’s make some magic.
🔗 Internal Links:
- Elopement Photography Packages
- Iceland Elopement Photographer
- Contact Renee
- What to Pack for Your Iceland Elopement
- How to Elope in Iceland Guide
🌍 External Links:
- Iceland Marriage Requirements
- Vermont Marriage License Info
- Blue Car Rental – Iceland
- Icelandair Flights
- REI Travel Gear
- Patagonia Outdoor Apparel
- North Face Gear
- ION Adventure Hotel
- Jennifer Perellie Beauty – VT
Remember, these 10 things to know before you elope are here to bring excitement, personal freedom and different ideas to the table. Happy Eloping!
